(CNN) — Their daughter Mia was just three years old when Canadian couple Edith Lemay and Sébastien Pelletier first noticed she had vision problems.
A few years after Mia, the eldest of their four children, was first taken to a specialist, she was diagnosed with retinitis pigmentosa, a rare genetic condition that causes loss or decrease in vision over time. .
By then, Lemay and Pelletier, who had been married for 12 years, had noticed that two other of their children, Colin, now seven, and Laurent, five, were experiencing the same symptoms.
Their fears were confirmed when in 2019 the children were diagnosed with the same genetic disorder; his other son Leo, now nine, has been given the green light.
“There’s really nothing you can do,” says Lemay, explaining that there is currently no effective cure or treatment to slow the progression of retinitis pigmentosa.
“We don’t know how fast this will progress, but we expect them to go completely blind in middle age.”
visual memories
Accepting the news, the couple focused on helping their children learn the skills they would need to get by in life.
When Mia’s specialist suggested they wrap her in “visual keepsakes,” Lemay realized there was a truly amazing way to do it for her and the rest of the kids.
“I said to myself, ‘I’m not going to show him an elephant in a book, I’m going to take him to see a real elephant,'” he explains. “And I will fill your visual memory with the best and most beautiful images that I can.”
She and her husband soon began planning to spend a year traveling the world with their children.
Although Lemay and Pelletier had traveled together frequently before becoming parents and had taken their children on several trips, taking a long family trip seemed out of the question until now.
“With the diagnosis, we have an emergency,” adds Pelletier, who works in finance. “There are great things to do at home, but there’s nothing better than traveling.”
“Not just the landscape, but also the different cultures and people.”
Soon they are trying to accumulate savings and their traveling boat gets a welcome boost when the company Pelletier works for is acquired and owns stock for which he receives compensation.
“It was like a little gift of life,” says Lemay, who works in healthcare logistics. “It was like, ‘Here’s the money for your trip.'”
Originally scheduled to leave in July 2020, the family of six had planned a long itinerary that included trips across Russia by land, as well as stays in China.
A great adventure
However, they were forced to delay their trip for years due to travel restrictions caused by the global pandemic, and they revised their itinerary countless times. When they finally left Montreal in March 2022, they had few plans.
“We actually went without a route,” says Lemay. “We had an idea of where we wanted to go, but we planned as we went. Maybe a month in advance.”
Before leaving, the Lemay-Pelletier family created a kind of list of experiences for their trip. According to Lemay, Mia wanted to ride a horse, while Laurent wanted to drink juice on a camel.
“It was very specific and very fun at the time,” he adds.
The family began their journey in Namibia, where they saw elephants, zebras and giraffes up close, before heading to Zambia and Tanzania, before flying to Turkey, where they spent a month . The family then headed to Mongolia, before moving on to Indonesia.
“We focused on viewpoints,” says Pelletier. “We also focused a lot on the fauna and flora. We saw incredible animals in Africa, but also in Turkey and elsewhere.
“So we’re trying to get them to see things they wouldn’t have seen at home and to have amazing experiences.”
Along with witnessing beautiful sights while their vision is still relatively strong, the couple hope the trip will help the children develop strong coping skills.
According to national eye institutewhich is part of the US National Institutes of Health, an agency of the US Department of Health and Human Services, symptoms of retinitis pigmentosa usually begin in childhood and most people eventually lose most of view.
“They’re going to have to be very resilient throughout their lives,” adds Lemay, noting that Mia, Colin and Laurent will have to constantly readjust as their eyesight deteriorates.
support system
“Travel is something you can learn from. It’s beautiful and fun, but it can also be very difficult. You can be uncomfortable. You can be tired. There’s frustration. So you can learn a lot from the journey itself.”
While Mia, now 12, has known about her illness since she was seven, Colin and Laurent discovered it more recently and are beginning to ask themselves some tough questions.
“My little boy asked me, ‘Mom, what does it mean to be blind? Am I going to drive a car?'” says Lemay. “He’s five years old. But little by little he understands what’s going on. It was a normal conversation for him. But for me, it was heartbreaking.”
For Leo, his second eldest son, knowledge of the genetic condition of his siblings was “always acquired”.
Lemay and Pelletier hope that being able to spend time in different countries and experience different cultures shows all children how lucky they are, despite the challenges that can arise later in life as their eyesight deteriorates. .
“No matter how hard their life is going to be, I wanted to show them that they are lucky to have running water at home and to go to school every day with pretty colorful books” , adds Lemay, who tells that the four children they have adapted to life on the road with relative ease.
“They’re super curious,” he says. “They easily adapt to new countries and new foods. I’m very impressed with them.”
While visual experiences remain a priority, Lemay says travel is more about showing kids “something different” and giving them unforgettable experiences.
“There are beautiful places all over the world, so it doesn’t matter where we go,” he explains.
“And you never know what will impress them. [pensarán] something is wonderful and then they see puppies on the street and it’s the best of their lives.”
The family shared their journey on social media, posting regular updates to their Facebook accounts. Facebook and instagram.
Lemay says others who have been diagnosed or have a loved one with retinitis pigmentosa have reached out to her to offer words of encouragement.
Indeed, a teacher at a specialized school in Quebec for blind or visually impaired students is one of her 11,000 Facebook subscribers and often shares her adventures with her class.
“Every week, open the Facebook page and describe all the photos or read what I write,” says Lemay.
“And in a way, they are part of the journey with us. Being able to share that with other people is a very beautiful gift that I am very grateful for. It makes me very happy.”
future challenges
Lemay and Pelletier admit the diagnosis is still on their minds, but they are focused on living in the moment and “focusing their energy on the positive things.”
“You never know when it can start or how fast it can go,” adds Pelletier. “So we really want to enjoy this time as a family and take care of each of our children so that we can live this experience to the fullest.”
Although the family plans to return to Quebec next March, they say they try not to think that far ahead. In fact, the ability to live in the moment is one of the key things the family has learned in recent months.
“This trip has opened our eyes to so many other things, and we really want to enjoy what we have and the people around us,” says Pelletier.
“If this can continue when we return, even in our daily routines, it will be a very nice achievement.”
Although traveling as a family was not easy, the couple also homeschooled their children during the trip. Lemay and Pelletier say one of the highlights was seeing the bond between the kids grow stronger.
“They are very good together,” he adds. “Above all, I think it helps solidify that bond between them. And I hope that continues in the future, so they can support each other.”
Pelletier points out that they remain hopeful that Mia, Colin and Laurent will never go blind. But for now, they’re doing everything they can to make sure they can handle whatever the future throws at them.
“Let’s hope science finds a solution,” says Pelletier. “Fingers crossed for that. But we know it can happen, so we want to make sure our kids are equipped to face those challenges.”
Editor’s note: This article was originally published on September 12.
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